Winding road

Below are statements which reflect being on the winding road. Tick each statement that applies to you and then press submit.

High conflict
Arguing in front of the children
Expressing high emotions
Reacting strongly to events
Thinking about things from your own perspective
Not hearing what your child is saying
Being unsure how to tell your child what is happening
Not putting your child in a position where he/she has to choose sides
Secretly wanting your child’s other parent to suffer
Giving all of your emotional energy to the conflict
Thinking about what your child’s other parent should or shouldn’t do
Focusing on things you can’t control
Unable to reach an agreement
Total number of ticks
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Even if you have ticked just one of these statements, you will find this guide valuable. As you go through this guide you’ll find various ideas that can make a difference to your child’s life, and help you to move closer to being on the straighter road. The most important of these ideas are listed in the ‘Highway Code’ below:
  1. 1. Try not to fight in front of your child or ask them to choose sides.
  2. 2. Think about what you can do, not what your child’s other parent should or shouldn’t do.
  3. 3. Accept that your child’s feelings may be different to yours.
  4. 4. Focus on what has worked, not on what hasn’t worked.
  5. 5. Remember, small steps can lead to big changes.
  6. 6. Look after yourself and be the best parent you can be.

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